Wild Men Dedicated to Planetary Shift

I was blessed to join the Shift Network Men’s Initiation Redesign team in January.  The Shift Network Men’s Initiation offers an extraordinary experience for men to step up to their next level of authenticity, integrity and power so they can make a positive difference in the world.

http://shiftmen.com/MensInitiation

Our task was to take the feedback of the December 2011 five day men’s initiation, of which I was a participant, and to bring an even better experience of personal transformation to the February 2012 event.

I was the Applied Mythologist of the redesign group and also the Storyteller for the 5 day February initiation.  My job was to leverage the power of story to frame, contain, and bridge the many individual processes of the 5 day experience.  We faced a formidable task, as our participants would come from all over the world and be a mixed group ranging from very experienced leaders of men’s trainings to men who were brand new to such work.   It was decided that the focus of the February Initiation would be to quicken the Lover archetype in men, so the tale needed to contain the following elements:

- Connection and disconnection

- Loss and grief

- Coping mechanisms used to avoid feeling grief, such as surface anger and addictions

- Emotional vulnerability and ego armoring

Core components of the Shift Initiation include processes for anger and grief work, gender reconciliation, and opportunities for creating vision statements and missions of service in the world.

The previous Shift Initiation had no story or mythic arc present.  My first step was to identify possible tales that might be a good frame for the existing processes.  After some conversations with my co-conspirators, Bill Kauth and David Kaar, plus a fair amount of research, I narrowed it down to these five stories:

1.  The One-Handed Girl, a Swahili variant of the Armless Maiden tale of Russian, German, Italian, and French origin,  in which a brother chops off the hand of his sister and repeatedly harms her - a brutal but poignant metaphor of the effect of the patriarchy on women and on the inner feminine aspect of men.  A man who emotionally armors himself is capable of much cruelty, and this story promises to show what is needed for him to regain the kind and gentle aspects of the sister within.   The Jungian analyst Robert Johnson examines a variant of this tale in his book The Fisher King and the Handless Maiden.

http://www.surlalunefairytales.com/armlessmaiden/stories/onehandedgirl.html

2.  One Thousand and One Nights, an Arabian collection of tales revolving around a frame tale featuring a broken-hearted tyrant who kills one bride after another to avoid falling in love again.  His new wife Scheherazade woos him with story after story to stay alive long enough for him to soften his heart and fall in love with her, making him safe for the world once again.  This is exactly the kind of transformation we need.

3.  The Maiden Tsar, a Russian folktale explored by men’s work pioneer Robert Bly along with Marion Woodman in their book The Maiden King.  In the tale, a boy encounters a strong, integrated feminine presence while out fishing and is betrothed to her.  She retreats from him when he falls asleep in the face of her love and he must go on a quest to find her again, encountering the fierce crone Baba Yaga and the mythical Firebird along the way.  This tale features a betrayal by both the boy’s mentor and his stepmother.   Rather than a traditional heroic conquest, it requires the more yin virtue of surrender and in the end, the hero is actually rescued by the feminine.  Very new paradigm.  Intriguing…

http://www.nytimes.com/books/first/b/bly-king.html

4.  A genre of tales including East o’ the Sun and West o’ the Moon / Valemon, the White Bear King aka The Polar Bear King (Norwegian tales) / Psyche and Eros (of Roman origin with Greek Gods as characters).
Similar motifs all include a girl who falls for either a bear or a spirit and then, against orders, tries to see him when he visits her in man-form at night.  Consequently, he leaves her just before the spell is broken and he is freed.  She must go on a quest to find her beloved again and encounters trials.  The Norwegian tales involve a Baba Yaga character who bestows gifts, while the Roman version features Venus/Aphrodite as the antagonist and a series of tasks for the heroine to perform.  These tales would work better if we were to adapt them with a male protagonist in search of his lost beloved…a very significant adaption.  Bly has done some work with the Valemon tale as well.

5.  Sleeping Beauty, although commonly known, is intriguing if we approach it from the King and Prince’s viewpoint. The King seeks to protect his daughter and the Prince either stumbles upon her sleeping form or else seeks her out.  There are many lesser known variants with opportunities for process work.  If we are seeking our sleeping yin Lover to help us love more fully in the world, then this tale holds some promise.   In most of the older versions, the Prince rapes the sleeping girl and she gives birth and is awakened by one of her twins, who suckles her finger and pulls out the cursed flax, breaking the spell.  Grim stuff.  In our hunger for the feminine, men often resort to actions of violation…from destroying the earth to hurting our loved ones.  Despite these shortcomings, the promise is that we can still reconcile with our Beloved and marry her, as in the tale.

So which tale did we choose for our February Shift Men’s Initiation?

Stay tuned…

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A Special Heroic Learning Opportunity in Kansas City!

When: Sunday, May 15 • 4:00pm – 6:00pm
Where: Stone Spirit Lodge    309 Westport Rd, Kansas City, MO

As we move forward on our Heroic Journeys, the greatest difficulties we encounter often arise from within ourselves. Even when a problem appears to be external to us, it’s the struggle from within to do what is required in the situation that gets in the way…whether it’s to accept or overcome or surrender or whatever is needed to move ahead in our lives. Here is often where we encounter our Shadow…the parts of us that we unconsciously repress or are simply unable to fully claim. We’ll discuss how to effectively work with the Shadow and to harness its power for positive change.

We’ll also look at Archetypes…those patterns of behavior found as characters in tales as well as in the stories that we live or that sometimes in fact live us. Archetypal work can free us from old narratives and behaviors and usher in new energy and new phases of life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Lastly, Lastly, we’ll address tools for integrating new wisdom into a new story for our lives.

Join Applied Mythologist, Educator, and Mythic Coach James Mayfield Smith to explore your own Heroic Journey. Building upon the rich foundations of Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung, Clarissa Pinkola Estes and other depth mythologists, James will share how to use the archetypal Heroic Journey as a map for personal transformation. This class is an opportunity to learn new ways to release old ideas and behaviors that no longer serve you. Lean into more empowering stories for your own life and our collective future.

$10 love offering encouraged. No one will be excluded for financial reasons.

For Deeper Heroic Journey Work:

James works with individual clients who seek to get unstuck, to release old stories that no longer work, to call in new personal myths, and to create enriching meaningful lives full of passion and power. James is a catalyst for personal growth and uses mythological tools to help clients discover their own clarity and draw forth their inner wisdom. Clients who work with James move forward in their lives with greater confidence in themselves, in the stories they consciously choose to live, and in the choices they make for their lives.

If you are interested in harnessing the principles of depth mythology for your own journey of transformation and would like to explore individual mythic coaching with James, he can be reached at 816-645-2600 or jamesmayfieldsmith@gmail.com.

Often, it takes a Giant knocking on the door before we are roused from slumber.  The divorce, the diagnosis, the layoff, the mid-life crisis – these Giants have spurred men and women to introspective action for ages.  These catalysts, when confronted with honesty and a willingness to follow one’s call, can serve to re-align one’s actions with one’s purpose.  This re-alignment is like hooking yourself up to a cosmic battery, because it taps into a power source previously unimagined.  The result can lead to increased vitality, fulfillment, and effectiveness in your life. 

I’ve had some Giants visit me already, and I’ve utilized them well for life change.  I can feel another one on its way, too, and I’m choosing to do my inner work now, again, and to take action towards my dreams.  Maybe I can even head this one off. 

Perhaps you’ve already had a recent visit from a Giant.  Are you going to squander the opportunity, or use it to recreate your life? 

Perhaps a Giant hasn’t yet come a calling.  Maybe you have another day, another year, another decade, even, until it does.  Are you going to wait for such an unwelcome visitor, or is it possible to step into your courage a bit early?

As a mythologist, I work quite a bit with the Heroic Journey…that outer journey that leads to an inward destination.  I’m particularly interested in how certain types of experiences quicken and draw forth the genius of individuals. 

I’m convinced that deep within each of us lies a genius with a purpose and a destiny to fulfill.   Sitting right on top of that exciting genius potential, I see two competing forces of the ego.  One is a yearning for action towards our dreams.  The other is a terror of failure and rejection.  This is certainly true for me, for the clients I’ve worked with, and for my closest friends who share their journey.  If we allow this terror to stop us from making the small, heroic choices required to find the inner genius and fulfill its destiny, we will never feel fully expressed and completely fulfilled.

Yet most of us can’t name our genius potential or our destiny.  Finding one’s destiny isn’t straightforward.  It requires stumbling into the right kind of trouble to evoke the latent heroism within.  Many of the old tales illustrate this.  Jack must go on his quest seeking giants in order to leave the boy behind and become the hero.  Ego fear resists encountering such giants, such Big Trouble.  Fear will keep us stuck in the details of life by simply attending to enough little troubles to keep us occupied.  For Jack, there was the cow to milk and the nagging mom to deal with.  Our own “little troubles” aren’t much different, and there’s no end to such distractions.  Lacking suitable Big Trouble, our heroism is never quickened, and we lounge in the safe shallow waters of mediocrity. 

Perhaps a major problem with the world is that we’re short on heroes tapping into their genius and living their destinies.  I suspect that we don’t even know how to go about getting started.  I wonder…

What might happen if enough of us went looking for the right kind of trouble?